Couple & Relational Counselling

As a Couples Counsellor;

Julie has an understanding and compassion for the underlying dynamics that may be affecting a current relationship.

She offers an initial diagnostic session with the couple, with no obligation to continue. The purpose of this is transparently to look at what might be occurring  and to assess the probability of outcomes given the motivation of the parties concerned. This is costed at the appropriate rate as it is probably the most important session of all.

The outcome for couples counselling may be quite different for each pair.

For some it is to end the relationship well and remain in good contact to be able to continue being parents to joint offspring or to transform the relationship into a friendship, or simply to say goodbye and thank you.

For others it is to rediscover what it was that originally lead to each falling in love with the other and whether those qualities are still there, despite life's vicissitudes. This could lead to a focus on everyday living and the kind of things that have lead to a sense of not being appreciated, acknowledged or valued. Sounds easy, but it is not, otherwise counselling would not be needed. It is often a process of separating the past from the present.

Couples counselling also involves looking at the relationship as an entity in its own right. It is often helpful for a couple to see the relationship as a coupledom which goes through its own growing phases, with its own needs, just like a person. This helps deflect blame and shame from the individuals involved and enables each party to discover where the coupledom has got stuck and what its needs are.

 

 

 

 

Testimonials

When I was introduced to Julie Hewson by my doctor I was teaching, running a business, bringing up a child and suffering from Chronic Fatigue. I was so anxious I could not attend at appointment on my own or go shopping. Julie managed to gently reduce my anxiety, which allowed me to make decisions about my life and move forward. Julie helped me with my personal life and also acted as a business consultant which enabled me to slowly take back control of my life. She taught me how to take care of myself, so that I could take care of others. If it wasn't for Julie we not have had a second child(I truly believe this) nor would my husband and I have the business we have today. Julie helped me see I had options and as a result I now purely work for the business. Julie's business advice and expertise helped us with our business and we now have 13 staff and is constantly evolving.

Anon